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A residential drug treatment center for men located in Pasadena, CA. The Gooden Center is a proud member of the National Association of Addiction Treatment Providers (NAATP).

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This Is Why Men’s Drug Rehab Is Right For You

Posted on: October 5th, 2019 by The Gooden Center No Comments

recovery-communityWhen you’re choosing a drug rehab center, gender probably isn’t your first concern. After all, you are adult enough to maintain proper boundaries around women, and the idea that only mixed gender environments can spark romance is heteronormative and archaic. However, the reality is that there are legitimate reasons that men’s-only drug rehab may be ideal.

If you’re not convinced that men’s drug rehab is right for you, here’s what you need to know.

Societal Expectations

We’re living in a world that is increasingly breaking down the boundaries between the different genders. Professions that were once women-dominated are now being taken up by men, and vice versa. Boys are no longer being brought up believing blue is the only acceptable color, and many parents are introducing their children to creative outlets that weren’t considered gender-appropriate in the past.

On the other hand, these changes are happening relatively slowly. This is particularly true when it comes to expectations about how men and women process emotions. The following beliefs are still entrenched in the minds of most men:

  • Boys don’t cry
  • The man of the house needs to be strong
  • Emotional vulnerability is weakness
  • Real men don’t go to therapy
  • Men shouldn’t show their emotions

This Is Why Men’s Drug Rehab Is Right For You

These beliefs are not limited to straight males. Most gay men struggle to eschew these ideals, even when they’ve come to terms with their sexuality. And, while the field of psychology is chipping away at such assumptions, the process is excruciatingly slow. In the meantime, most men alive today have been brought up in this mindset.

To say that the effects of these beliefs are catastrophic is no exaggeration. The statistics show a worrying trend. The vast majority of individuals diagnosed with mental illness are female. But at least twice as many men commit suicide as women. The implication is clear: women get treatment while men suffer in silence.

But what does this have to do with men’s drug rehab?

Learning to Share

The problem is that these assumptions and expectations follow people into rehab. In mixed gender rehabs, men are unlikely to have the same opportunities to share. For one thing, they may consider female emotions more legitimate and not want to take away from their air-time. But, more significantly, they are ashamed to share emotions, thinking they will appear weak in the context they’ve been taught to show most strength – around women, who they have learned respect men who are strong and capable of protecting them. Over time, they will begin to understand that women actually have tremendous respect for men who have the courage to share. However, that understanding takes precious time.

What is Avoidant Personality Disorder?In a men’s rehab center, you enter a place where men are already sharing freely with one another. You find an environment which is different to what you’ve learned to expect. Together with your fellow residents, you learn how to share your emotions. Ideally, you will take this skill with you into the outside world, where you will be able to share with the women in your life. But that will come with the practice you get in a less loaded environment.

It is almost comparable to exposure therapy. Just as someone who is afraid of heights can gradually face their fear at greater and greater heights, you can take the leap and share in a low-risk environment. You learn what it is like to be vulnerable, and gradually begin to do the same in other contexts.

It’s not just the ability to share and make yourself vulnerable that is affected by societal expectations of men.

Redefining Success

Boys are brought up with very specific ideas of what it means to be a success. You may think that success implies:

  • you have a job
  • you are the breadwinner
  • you are ambitious
  • you put work above your personal life
  • you take care of your family’s practical problems

Men who struggle with addiction face self-esteem issues because of these beliefs. Addiction often causes men to lose their jobs or opportunities for promotion, spend grocery money on substances, put their dreams on hold, and neglect their family’s needs. Going to rehab already feels like a failure for many men, even though it takes tremendous courage and commitment.

This Is Why Men’s Drug Rehab Is Right For You

In rehab, many men need to redefine what success means for them. Low self-esteem is a risk factor for further substance abuse and, if you leave rehab into an environment in which you feel like a failure, you may struggle to stay clean.

At men’s drug rehab, you will work on realigning your priorities. You will hear other men sharing what is really important in their lives, and begin to recognize that financial growth and career advancement are not synonymous with success. Committing to getting better, self-growth, and family healing can all be part of your new definition of success.

This is not to say that women in rehab won’t have similar struggles with their ideas of financial and career success. However, the differences in how men and women are brought up and seen by society lead to a general divide in how we see success.

Community

Men’s drug rehab also provides a perfect opportunity for men to redefine male friendship for themselves. Chances are, you don’t share emotions with your friends, but are more likely to speak about superficial matters. These types of friendships can be very deep, but aren’t usually spaces in which it is possible to be open about feelings.

In men’s drug rehab, you will form connections with other men which are characterized by sharing emotions, rather than common interests or hobbies.

A Safe Space

Ultimately, men’s drug rehab provides a safe space for men to learn to share, build a sense of community, and redefine the meaning of success. These are all legitimate reasons that men’s drug rehab may be perfect for you. It’s not about drawing arbitrary lines between genders, but rather about facing the specific challenges brought about by society’s (and our own) assumptions.

References:

  1. Mental Health Foundation

Why Inpatient Rehab Is Gold Standard For Addiction Treatment

Posted on: October 1st, 2019 by The Gooden Center No Comments

It Gets Better

If you’re considering starting recovery from addiction, chances are that inpatient rehab has been recommended to you. It’s what most people associate with recovery. It has almost become a trope in television shows, movies, and books. Characters struggling with substance use disorder go to rehab. This is one case where media really does reflect life. Inpatient rehab is gold standard for addiction treatment.

But why is this the case? People struggling with most mental illnesses don’t usually go straight into institutions. Why should substance use disorder be any different?

The nature of addiction makes rehab not just ideal but necessary for many people. Here’s why.

The nature of addiction

The very nature of addiction is that external triggers lead to urges and cravings, which inevitably lead the individual to use their substance of choice. Unlike depression and anxiety, for example, the unhealthy habit feels like a solution at the time. Without removing yourself from the environment in which the triggers exist, you’ll have a very difficult time beating the cravings. And while you are still using the substance, any treatment is unlikely to be effective.

But inpatient rehab is not just effective because it keeps you from using substances.

A safe space for growth

Inpatient rehab provides an opportunity most people never get. It is a safe space for you to focus entirely on your own personal growth. In general, self-improvement is seen as a lesser priority in relation to work and family commitments. But in rehab, your commitments are mainly to yourself.

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It is for this reason that many recovering addicts view their time in inpatient rehab as one of the most productive, fulfilling periods of their lives. While in rehab, you will get to spend time working on yourself without the constant risk of relapse, away from your triggers, and without distraction.

Not only do you learn new ways of coping through therapy and training, but you get to practice them before having to implement them in the “real world.” You thereby build your skills and resilience before having to face your toughest tests.

In fact, even with illnesses like depression and anxiety, inpatient treatment is ideal. Most individuals prefer to try treating their illnesses while continuing their day-to-day lives, but those who spend time in a facility working on themselves are more likely to reach a healthy state of self-actualisation, grateful for the opportunity to focus on self-growth.

Community

Addiction is also best treated in inpatient rehab because you become part of a community. Group therapy is a fundamental part of addiction treatment, and community is what keeps many people sober or clean. This is for a number of reasons.

Firstly, it shows you that you are not alone. There are many others like you who struggle with addiction, and many more who have managed to recover. Being able to see others with the same problems helps you get past some of the self-incrimination. You’re not the only person to make mistakes and get caught in the addiction spiral.

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Secondly, it gives you the opportunity to change your relationship patterns. You learn to relate to people in healthier ways, without the codependence often generated by addiction. You learn to implement boundaries, supporting others without taking on their problems or burdening them with yours.

Finally, it gives you a foundation of support, secure in the knowledge that there are people rooting for you to succeed, who will be there for guidance when you need it.

Find what works for you

The best inpatient rehabs provide a range of different recovery modules. You will have access to group and individual therapy, mindfulness training, occupational therapy, and more . Rather than having to choose one approach and place all your hopes on it, you get various treatments, with the chance to discover what works for you and what does not.

Ideally, a combination of all of the approaches is most useful. By the time you leave inpatient rehab, you’ll have a full toolkit with all the resources possible for keeping yourself on track.

Holistic treatment

Furthermore, it’s not just the addiction itself that needs to be treated. Addiction affects you both physically and mentally, and the healthier you are, the more likely you are to succeed. Inpatient rehab gives you access to dietitians who can work with you to improve your health through nutrition, physical therapists who can work with you to improve your health through exercise, and mental health specialists who can work with you to improve your mental wellbeing.

Family therapy

Breaking the Stigma of TreatmentAddiction is often considered a family illness because it affects whole families. Relationships become dysfunctional, and end up perpetuating the cycle of addiction. In this environment, it is very difficult to stay sober or clean. During inpatient rehab you can learn how to implement boundaries and transform your relationships. This can be done in family therapy, with your family present, as well as in individual therapy, where you can identify the patterns which lead to the most issues.

Preparation for outpatient programs

Outpatient treatment can be effective, with excellent programs available at the best centers. However, these programs are most effective when you already have a good understanding of the skills being strengthened. You will leave inpatient rehab with experience in group and individual therapy, mindfulness training, and much more. Outpatient programs become supplementary, rather than having to teach you everything from scratch.

Recovery is an ongoing process and does not end when you leave inpatient rehab. However, you will be best-placed to succeed, with a toolkit full of resources for dealing with triggers, managing crises, and maintaining your sobriety.

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