Gooden Center
A residential drug treatment center for men located in Pasadena, CA. The Gooden Center is a proud member of the National Association of Addiction Treatment Providers (NAATP).

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Suffering a Setback in Recovery

Posted on: February 8th, 2019 by The Gooden Center No Comments

Suffering a Setback in Recovery

Quitting an addiction can be a different journey for everyone that goes through the process. It will never be perfect or the ideal scenario as each person will have to cope with their own ups and downs. There are bound to be setbacks that come up and learning to handle those experiences will become an essential part of sobriety.

Of course no one wants to fail in recovery but mistakes and setbacks do happen. Understanding how to get back on track after a setback and continue to persevere is crucial when you have an addiction. Many people can fall into self-defeating thoughts when they have a setback but this can be dangerous and lead to relapse.

It is important not to fall into negative thinking such as believing that it’s not the right time for you to recover or that you can’t handle recovery. Although it may be natural to feel upset and afraid during a setback you need to understand that you and millions of other people are capable of recovery. There is never going to be a better time to recover and it is something that you can accomplish now.

When a setback happens it is also helpful not to blame others or blame a certain situation. You need to take responsibility and learn from the experience so that you can handle it better next time. You can see it as an opportunity to learn and gain clarity without viewing it as a failure on your part.

If you are faced with a setback your highest priority should be to get back on track by talking to your sponsor or counselor and going to meetings. Get input from other people on how to handle it so that you feel supported and don’t allow a mistake to derail your recovery.

Is Moving Away Helpful in the Recovery Journey?

Posted on: February 3rd, 2019 by The Gooden Center No Comments

Is Moving Away Helpful in the Recovery Journey?

Quitting an addiction is a time of great change for people as they learn to navigate a whole new lifestyle and way of being. It may seem like relocating would add too much stress to the process but it can actually be a great way to start over and avoid many of the triggers and pitfalls associated with recovery. Moving away from your old life both literally and figuratively can be a useful way to get through some of the obstacles preventing you from becoming sober.

Attending rehab in a new city or moving to a new place after completing treatment can have its challenges but there are many important benefits. Relocating gives you a fresh start so that you can be in different surroundings with new people, a new job, and new activities to keep you occupied. No one will know about your past so you can have a clean slate without anyone knowing about your past.

Moving can also be helpful for people that are currently in a negative situation and need to create a new and more positive life. If they are surrounded by friends or even family members that abuse drugs or alcohol or toxic relationships that bring them down then moving can give them a better recovery experience. Steering clear of the triggers that could lead to relapse is much easier when you are in a completely new place.

Of course moving may not be the answer for everyone especially if they have a more supportive group of friends in their home town or a group meeting where they are making progress. Moving is only the right choice if you feel that your current situation will hold you back from fully recovering. Relocation is something important to consider as a first or final step of recovery.

Making Amends in Recovery

Posted on: January 17th, 2019 by The Gooden Center No Comments

Making Amends in Recovery

One of the most well-known steps in a twelve step recovery group is that of making amends to those you have wronged. People are familiar with this step because it is one of the most difficult but important elements of recovering from an addiction. An addict may have hurt people in their lives or damaged relationships and they need to address these issues if they want to remain sober.

Making amends consists of both step eight and nine in an AA program and most members of the group will already have worked through many other issues before they reach this point. Step eight asks the addict to make a list of all the people they have harmed and become willing to make amends with them. Step nine asks them to make direct amends to the people on the list in whatever way possible.

This process can be challenging and delicate and will usually require the help of a sponsor or a counselor who can help the addict prepare for what they will say and do. Making amends can be complex because it involves more than simply apologizing for something that you have said or done. It means restoring justice to the person who has been wronged in any way possible, either directly or in a symbolic way.

Making direct amends may not be possible in all cases but the addict may find a way to do something positive that gives back or restores what they have harmed. A sponsor or counselor can assist you in thinking of ways to make amends that will help others and repair some of the damage caused by your addiction. Making amends opens doors to bring back old friendships and relationships to your life so that you don’t have to avoid or feel guilty about the people you have hurt.

Trouble Finding a Job After Rehab

Posted on: January 15th, 2019 by The Gooden Center No Comments

Trouble Finding a Job After Rehab

After recovering from an addiction, it is important for former patients to get back into the workforce as soon as possible. Having a job gives people a sense of purpose and prevents distraction and too much free time that can be dangerous for newly recovered. However, there can be many obstacles and setbacks that can make it hard for someone in recovery to find a job.

Those new in recovery may feel uncertain about finding employment because they have certain issues which may look bad on their resume or on their background check. They could have a long gap in their employment history due to issues of abuse, losing a prior job or spending a long time away in treatment. They could also have negative aspects of their background such as arrests, jail time or a DUI.

In spite of these issues, many people in recovery are still able to find regular employment by companies that are willing to hire people with histories of abuse or even past legal issues. It can be helpful to talk to a counselor about how to improve your resume or explain gaps in employment to a potential employer. You can figure out how to highlight certain skills or experience that may minimize other aspects of your resume that may seem like red flags to a new job.

A good place to start when looking for a job is to use your connections to get you through the door. If you haven’t worked in a while you can ask friends, family members or even old coworkers if they know someone who is hiring. This can help you bypass some of the hiring politics so that you are able to get started with a new job quickly.

It can be helpful to have reasonable expectations about your employment. You may even consider starting at a lower level job and working your way up so that you can rebuild your resume and focus on your sobriety.

Is FOMO a Part of Recovery?

Posted on: January 9th, 2019 by The Gooden Center No Comments

Fear of Missing Out

Millennials came up with a term to describe the feeling of being on the outside of something that you want to be a part of. FOMO or “fear of missing out” is actually common issue that people experience when they are going through recovery. It is natural for people to worry, especially for those who have made a major lifestyle change, that they are missing out on fun and memorable experiences.

The term FOMO is something that came about due to social media and our generation’s tendency to compare their lives to others online. The fear of missing out can be pervasive, however, and can lead to dissatisfaction with life, depression and anxiety. For people in recovery, they may constantly fear that they are being excluded from the excitement of parties and drinking that their friends are still able to enjoy.

It can be helpful to analyze why we experience FOMO and find ways to understand the cause of negative thoughts or fears. For people in recovery, they often get to a point where they only remember the good times they associate with drinking and parties and forget all the reasons they decided to quit. Reminding yourself that not every drinking experience was fun and there were a lot of negative consequences can help put things into perspective.

For those who are really struggling with their fears and negative thoughts about their life, you can try to track your thoughts and talk to a therapist about them. They may give you ideas about why you are feeling this way and suggest ways to replace negative thoughts with more positive ones. Part of recovery is working through the fear of being on the outside of certain experiences you may have had in the past and learning to embrace your new lifestyle.